Do you remember the mad passion of when you first fell in love? You couldn’t see enough of each other. You couldn’t keep your hands off each other. Every minute was spent thinking of the other. You talked on the phone for hours and fantasised a future of cherry blossom tenderness and romantic walks no further than your blushing garden.
When you hear “date night” you think one of two things: cheesy or what I wouldn’t do for one of those…?
If it’s the latter, you probably have settled into a somewhat – take-each-other-for-granted symbiosis.
Whether married or in a long stretch of habitual dating, this is not a good place to be in.
In the early blush of love or lust as the case might have been, you couldn’t wait to see each other rip off your clothes and his and get down to it.
But it is intimacy that suffers when a relationship slips into routine. I’m not saying routine does not have its place because it does. But everybody needs a break from routine.
Remember the concept of making time? This is so important in a maturing relationship.
You need to rearrange what is normal or usual to accommodate a space in time that is special and dedicated as part of a day at least once a month.
It might fall on your shoulders as the woman in the relationship as my gut tells me in most cases women are more inclined to romance than men. So, play it safe and own this area of your relationship.
Spending quality time together is vital. When you do, be careful not to make it a whinge session about all his faults or all the things that need attending to in the house.
Rather see it as an investment. You would not want to waste your investment so think about this time as precious and use it wisely. Talk about you goals and aspirations and encourage him to do the same. Look for synergies and ways in which you can support each other.
Next time you hear “date night” make a dash for your diary and block of a couple of hours for quality time with your significant other.
I had been dating Charles for about three weeks. Then a Saturday night during Pesach crossed our path and we found ourselves at a secular steakhouse, which would be quite normal had it not been Passover.
Little did I know how telling this date would be.
Pesach, I discovered sorts out where you fall on the religious observance scale, if at all.
Online dating allows individuals to develop a social, romantic or sexual relationship by sharing information on a digital platform. Any link to the Internet will be able to facilitate your signing on to a dating service. Once you’re logged in there are a few things to watch out for.
Here are 10 tips to help in you rise above the challenges of online dating:
Create an introduction of yourself aiming to appeal to the opposite sex. Be careful to state only what is essential and do not reveal too much at this stage. You don’t want over exposure.
Avoid using too many adjectives in your profile. Keep descriptions basic and simple. Remember you are as much a stranger to others as they are to you.
I had a boyfriend who used to say, “It’s not how good looking you are, but how good-looking you think you are.” Perhaps he’d heard the mantra “fake it till you make it”, that helped shape his thinking.
Said another way, confidence can hide a multitude of sins. With Clive’s bold, arrogant pronouncement I never saw him as less than good looking because his self-belief was so strong, it had incredible impact.